All day I've been pondering how to approach today's post. After the last couple of days, and reading the various posts concerning what some have called the "craft divas" and even the "craft mafia" (ugh), I have my own opinion. But I wasn't sure how to approach the subject. Or even if I wanted to touch upon it at all. (For those of you who have (forutnately?) not heard of the subject yet, click over here to read a snippet of what I'm talking about).
The entire subject has caused me great sorrow. I feel a bit betrayed by the blog community overall; originally a safe haven for my thoughts and feelings, my successes as well as my triumphs, the honeymoon is apparently over.
I am not at all speaking of individuals here, lest I offend anyone, for I consider many, many of you close friends, even though we have never met face to face. I'm speaking of a tone that is resounding through the community. A tone that I thought had been laid to rest with the (supposedly) defunct "mommy-wars".
It seems there are those out there who would like to compartmentalize the blog community. They want specific labels, and they don't want to allow for gray areas or cross-over. To these people, craft blogs should only be about craft. Personal blogs should be kept to the personal. And neither the twain shall meet. Oh, and heaven forbid you should be a stay-at-home-mom who crafts and keeps house. And if you have more than 10 steady readers, beware; you might just get stuck being labeled a "crafty-girly blog" to cite one author.
Now, I've probably already made some people angry, and for that I sincerely apologize. My intention here is not to anger, but to bring peace. I began blogging with the intention of pulling myself up from major depressive disorder by more than medicine alone. My first blog, which has been woefully ignored by me for the past several months, was called The Madmommy Blues Blog. Madmommy, for a mommy with depression. There is a severe lack of information out there for parents with depression, especially depression that goes beyond the post-partum phase and into everyday life for years after. Then I began this blog, which was originally entitled Real Mom's Don't Wear Gucci. I wanted a forum for mothers who shopped at Target (and yes, even Walmart); for mothers who wouldn't spend $350 on a purse even if they could. For real moms, the moms I know.
And then a miracle happened. While looking around the blogosphere, I stumbled upon craft blogs. I pulled out my sewing machine from the garage. And I started to create. And blog about it. And my husband came home from work one day a few days later and remarked about how happy I seemed, how much calmer I was. In other words, I was feeling better about myself and the world in general. I started to sew during Christian's naps, which gave my days even more purpose and meaning.
And now, some people want to tell me I shouldn't combine my craft with my life in one forum.
I have only one thing to say about that...
And to prove I'm not one of those perfect stay-at-home-moms with a beautiful home and lovely crafting skills, a few photos...
So can we please, please stop this "domestic fantasy" debate and just accept that we all blog for our own various reasons, all of which are valid? The whole, I'm ok, you're ok bit.
as a parting note...please understand I am also currently under hormonal influence, please take all comments with a block of salt, thank you.
I send my thoughts to all of you who have been supportive of me and my blog, thank you for being there and making each day a new day.